Questions

Hi people,

I'm sure some of you have wondered why it takes me quite a while to continue the parts of the story i have started. Well the truth is, I'm preparing for my upcoming exams and the first paper starts this 12th May till 17th May following one darn stupid paper on 10th June.

I'll be creating a new blog for this story that I have started. Figured it should not clash with this current blog because I'm using this blog after all to blog about my thoughts and things that happened in my life.

In the meantime, my PC has also crashed. It won't even start up so here I am in an internet cafe [which i haven't been to one since God knows when] updating my blog while clearing my recently near over-flooded emails because I haven't been able to log on for a while.

This entry in its actual content is short [not]-

A question that looms inside my head and it won't go away.

Are people very disturbed once their level of physical intimacy rises? Is the factor of the relationship being in its infantile stages a big reason for this worry?

Does an increase [perhaps big] in the level of physical intimacy bring about unfounded worries like.. the other party not willing to bear any responsibility? But if the other party has expressed his/her desire to be together and has constantly reinforced this emphasis then what appears to be the worry that hogs the confused party? Is it simply being uncomfortable getting too cosy when the level of understanding is not deep enough? Should there not be communication?


A quote in my head that won't go away.
"..When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible."
~ When Harry met Sally (1989)

So happens a big increase in the level of physical intimacy within months of the relationship. The questioning party has gone into solace, refusing to acknowledge any attempts by the other party to enquire about their well-being. Leaving the other party in utter confusion and state of near breakdown worrying as well.

What made me amused was this conversation

Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally Albright: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally Albright: What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?
Harry Burns: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally Albright: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry Burns: I guess not.
Sally Albright: That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.


So sums up the basic truth. No one can be friends with another person whom they ultimately find attractive. There will be physical intimacy involved sooner or later, except for the part where being unattractive will get nailed sooner or later. I think that's still pretty subjective.

Being attractive - skin deep? or EQ wise? What if EQ was the main factor while skin deep was secondary? Would this involvement be considered superficial then? Is it really impossible to give the heart of oneself when you know that deep within yourself you want to know this person for the rest of your life?

Don't deny the tears that had been shed. The eyes that did not shed tears, the heart was bleeding.